Breakups honestly suck for everyone. It does not matter if it was a one-month relationship, a 4-month thing, or a 20-year relationship because nothing prepares us for the pain of a breakup. If you were the one who was broken up with, then the pain tends to be more intense because you are left with many questions and even more conflicting feelings to deal with. Navigating through a breakup safely can get tough and extra help is always needed, so if your ex girlfriend left you recently, this article is for you.
You might initially feel shocked following the breakup, and then once the shock wears off then the pain and sadness kicks in. For more this is trickier since they are not given as much emotional support, but this is us telling you to find support right now. Talk to friends, cry it out, and seek professional help if you find it difficult to talk to other people around you. Isolating yourself can help initially, but closing yourself off entirely will only hurt you more in the process.
Numbing and distraction by diving into work, games, drinks, and drugs, etc. are okay to do from time-to-time, especially in the initial phase, but doing this long-term and consistently will only end up hurting you more in the process. Take the time you need to grieve the relationship and give yourself the space to process your emotions as well. This is a necessary step in the healing journey or else you will just end up letting it slowly eat you up on the inside.
Jumping into a relationship with another person or finding a rebound will not help you. This is a slow process, so rushing into a relationship immediately without sorting through the last one will only end up hurting you again and the other person.
